Normally, I guess, when you plan a wedding, you focus on the bride and groom. But in our case, we’ve had four people to consider.
I looked down at the adorable little misshapen clay family.
Jan. Joe. Geoff. Me. And a zombie.
Replicas of all five of us, lovingly crafted by little hands, ready to be packed up and brought along this weekend.
The wedding is happening. And these little guys are going to be our cake toppers.
Jan had asked to make them, and my fiance and I readily agreed. Joe made himself, and Jan made the rest of us.
Then Joe threw a curveball. He asked if his clay figure could be holding a sword — and attacking a zombie.
A zombie? That didn’t quite jive with the quaint woodland theme we had going.
I thought about it.
“Well, the cake itself isn’t that big, buddy. It’d be tough to fit five of us on top of it,” I told him.
But it was his idea, and I wanted to make it work.
Normally, I guess, when you plan a wedding, you focus on the bride and groom. (It’s complicated enough with just two!)
But in our case, we’ve had four people to consider.
It’s been important to Geoff and me, that we involve the kids in the wedding — and not just the day of. We’ve tried to incorporate their ideas and get their help on projects all along the planning process, too.
Picking out the family photos to decorate the venue with.
Stamping the personalized water bottle labels.
Designing the puzzle activity for guests.
Shopping for Jan’s “high heel” shoes. (They’re about half an inch tall, but that’s a big deal for a 6-year-old.)
And there was that time Joe found a thrift-store bracelet that he thought I could wear for the wedding, because it’s my favorite color; it didn’t match my dress, but it was so sweet of him, I decided to at least wear it for the rehearsal dinner.
We want them to feel a part of everything. Because, really, they are a part of everything. A huge part.
Yes, I’m marrying…